Obituaries serve as a way to communicate the death of a loved one and to announce important information about funeral or visitation services. Obituaries tell the story of the deceased and allow loved ones to celebrate and honor his or her life.
Writing an obituary for a loved one can seem like an overwhelming task during an already difficult time. Many people struggle with knowing how to write an obituary and follow the correct obituary format for names, dates, and order of content.
This step-by-step guide on how to write an obituary includes helpful information, tips, and obituary examples, so you can be well prepared to write an obituary that is respectful and meaningful.
Before you begin crafting an obituary for your loved one, the following information should be gathered:
A standard obituary format begins with the following information about the deceased:
The announcement of death can be communicated in different ways. “Passed away,” “died,” and “left this world” are common phrases to announce the death of a loved one.
You are under no obligation to include the cause of death in the obituary; although, it may keep you from repeatedly explaining what happened.
Jane (Smith) Doe, age 80, of Capital City, passed away Dec. 3, 2022, in her home from natural causes.
In addition to announcing the death, an obituary tells the story of a person’s life. The obituary shouldn’t be a full biography; instead, it should highlight important events, milestones, and achievements in the deceased’s life. You may want to include:
Jane Doe was born in April 1939 in Capital City. She attended Capital City Public Schools and earned a bachelor’s degree in business from Business University. She was married to her husband, John Doe, for more than 50 years. Jane was actively involved with her church and regularly volunteered with United Way. She loved traveling and gardening and was an avid reader.
Obituaries typically list survivors of the deceased and those who preceded your loved one in death. Full names, as well as location, are included in the family list.
Choosing which family members to name in an obituary can cause some controversy. The typical obituary format for listing family includes immediate family members: spouse, children, parents, grandchildren, and siblings. Grandchildren; great-grandchildren; and extended family members, such as cousins, nieces, or nephews, are typically not named but instead listed numerically. Other people, such as extended family members or close friends, can also be listed in an obituary if you think your loved one would have wanted to include them.
Jane Doe is survived by her husband, John Doe, of Capital City, two children, their spouses, eight grandchildren, and three great-grandchildren. She was preceded in death by her parents and sister.
Obituaries are typically published before a funeral service and usually have a section that announces the funeral or memorial service information. Include the key details, so others know how they can pay their respects:
Be sure to indicate in the obituary if the services are private to close family and friends.
The visitation will be held at Smith’s Funeral Home on Dec. 7, 2022, at 10 a.m. Following the visitation, a private burial service for family and close friends will take place at Capital City Cemetery.
Proofreading is the final step in writing an obituary. Look for any factual, spelling, or grammar issues. Since obituaries are written during an emotional time, you may want to have someone else review it from another perspective.
After you’re sure the obituary is ready for publication, submit it to the deceased’s local newspaper and funeral home.
When a loved one dies, writing an obituary is the first of many tasks you’ll need to complete. You may feel overwhelmed by all the things that need to get done or be unaware of all the steps. Resources, such as our checklist for what to do when someone dies, are available to help you during this difficult time.
In addition to the large checklist of tasks to complete after a loved one dies, you may also have to complete various forms and paperwork. To help you work through it all, our checklist of forms you need to complete after a person dies walks you through the process of completing the necessary paperwork with detailed information.
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